Now I was going to call this blog post, ‘Dickmatized’ but my mom is a ‘friend’ on my Facebook and she may have an attack if an article like that from me popped up on her timeline. Now when I say BBC I am not talking about the British Broadcasting Company it was something I became familiar with as I started online dating. I online dated at a couple of different spots, so the profiles came in a variety of forms. But when I started to date Matt, he told me when he was online dating he noticed a lot of white women including the abbreviation BBC in their profile requests. I was confused I didn’t know what it meant, so I asked, he was surprised I’d never heard of it. Well I don’t pay attention to people and the things they do or say, so as with most things this one missed me. He told me and I was shocked to learn that it meant, big black cock, well I can’t mistake what they were asking for, they wanted the jungle love, mandingo, the black man with a dick swinging like a third leg. After he informed me of this I laughed, a lot, because the whole thing is ridiculous. It’s also ridiculous how dumb women are about our bodies and how they work, especially sexually. It’s many a woman that has fallen for the myth of the big black cock, as better able, more satisfying and just plain good when it comes to sex. Black women for the most part are still extremely what I like to call ‘dickmatized’ a word I took from the comedian, Sommore and it fits perfectly here, black women on the whole and many other non-black woman have become what is known as dick-hypnotized. They’re so hypnotized by this big black cock, that they’ve actually not even noticed that bigger is not always better or more satisfying when it comes to women and sex.
Just a little background, I like sex, I like sex alot, I like lots of sex, I find it enjoyable and a good way to create intimacy. But let me just be truthful, good sex with someone I may not like that much is still good sex. But all that aside, Matt and I enjoy a very satisfying sexual life, we are adventurous now I don’t threesomes or animals but my mind is open when it comes to sex. One of the best things is, we communicate about sex and what are needs are frequently which makes sexual pleasure for everyone great all around. I believe sex was built for pleasure, that’s part of sex’s purpose, it was also built to promulgate families but since we have intention of having children it’s all pleasure for us. The Song of Solomon in the bible speaks rather explicitly in very poetic way about sex and sexual pleasure and God’s desire for us to indulge. But believe me you’ll never hear anyone talk about that in church, which is one of the reasons so many black women are dickmatized. Most women are unfamiliar with their body and how it functions, black women in particular because we’ve been told from birth that good girls don’t touch that or that only fast girls know anything about those parts of their body or sex or your body is a temple. Well great, it’s a temple I know nothing of, there are rooms black women are unfamiliar with then some guy comes along goes all up and through your temple rooms like a bull in a china shop and we’re so overwhelmed by the experience, we think we’re in love and his wonderful BBC has us so hypnotized, as Sommore says, we’re letting him drive our car and he has no license. That’s what happens when you are unfamiliar with your own body, it’s like being the ruler of a country and being unfamiliar with the lay out of your lands, well hell anyone can come in conquer them if you don’t know what’s there and how it works.
I know of grown women, who don’t realize that when you urinate it’s not coming from the same spot where you menstruate dumb ass. Have any of you ever looked at your vagina, I mean really looked it? I have, I took a mirror and studied it, it’s my body I should know about it, I want to know how I achieve orgasm, where the g-spot is located on me and how you get there. I don’t want any man down there telling me news about my body I don’t already know. Do women know that all vaginas are not built alike? That some are deeper, some are shallow, some have a curvature, that our vaginas as women are varied just like men’s penises. Do you know where your clitoris is and how it gets stimulated? Because if you don’t you’re going to have trouble achieving orgasm, 50 to 75% of women only achieve orgasm via clitoral stimulation. Yes there are those rare freaks of nature you can orgasm via intercourse or anal intercourse but most of us can’t. So the BBC sticking in and out of you all day long is not going to help you have an orgasm. I’m so sick of dumb women bragging all day long about the BBC, a man screwing you like you aren’t there is not going to achieve your sexual needs. Really all you are for him is a sperm receptacle, stop trying to be so amazing for him in bed, women need to be pleased to. Most men have no idea how to make their wives or girlfriends come, most guys just do with you what they did with the last chick. I’m here to tell every man, that shit you did with Tina, Lorie and Amy is not going to work for every woman. She needs to tell you what turns her on and can help bring satisfaction for her and you need to ask and listen. The best lovers I’ve ever had are not the ones with big dicks, in fact, that never did nothing for me but it was the ones that listened to what I told them and then did it. I was watching a porno once and this black woman was having sex with this black man who had a huge penis but as I watched I noticed, she did not look happy. Most of the time the women in porn are acting anyway, but this chick was not acting like this was best ride of her life, she looked like she was uncomfortable and in serious pain. There is nothing pleasureable about being uncomfortable. Having a BBC that you have no idea how to use properly is just a damn waste, I’d take a dude with an average penis, creativity, and some listening skills any day over the BBC.
I want to leave you with this, when I started to explore my body when I got to know my body sex became so much better for me and more satisfying. It also became more satisfying for my lover, because a really good man wants to bring his woman pleasure. There is nothing in the world worse than a selfish lover and they really should have to have sex with themselves so they can see how bad it is. I started to read more, explore more using toys and other things (I recommend Babeland online, it’s a sex shop run by women with reviews) and talk more my sex life just got a million times more satisfying. I was never enamored by the BBC anyway but even better because I knew my body and how it got satisfied during sex I wouldn’t be hypnotized by it either.