Maybe It’s Time You Moved On

Blogs and vlogs can’t be everything to everyone and it’s okay to move on from your favorites and find other favorites if that’s what you need.


6 thoughts on “Maybe It’s Time You Moved On

  1. Hi Eugenia,
    I’ve been following your for quite a while and I want to say thank you for vlogs, especially your very informative series on various forms of emotional abuse. To be honest, before I happened upon your blog, I wasn’t really sure what emotional abuse was or how to recognize it, although I would see behaviors in certain men but I just couldn’t put my finger on what their problem was. All I knew is that they were very awful. Now because of your blog, I know what to call it. I’ve also been reading a book by Beverly Engel called “The Emotionally Abused Woman”. I’m still looking for the book that you were referencing from at the bookstore, but I guess I’ll have to go on Amazon. I know they’ll have it. Anyways, I wish there was more information out there about emotional abuse because, unfortunately, it’s very prevalent. Anyways, I’m a very busy woman but I always make time to watch your vlogs. I really appreciate what you do for women, especially black women. It’s been very helpful. I rarely comment on blogs that I like because, well, that’s just me. But I just want to let you know that your contributions have been very insightful and helpful, and to top it off you are brilliantly funny!!!! Please keep on! I really enjoy you and I thank you!!!

  2. This is the first video of yours that I’ve watched (although I’ve been stopping by your blog for a while) and I really enjoyed it.

    1. Re: If this isn’t for you, then move on to something else.

    This is an excellent point. I read a variety of different blogs and they all give me something different. When I want pure politics I go to certain sites; when I want feminism I go to certain sites; issues as they relate to black women, etc., In marketing we say that there is no such thing as a product that can be all things to all people .

    Also, even when you really do enjoy reading a certain topic or blog, it is possible to just get burnt out and need to take a breather, especially if the material is heavy. As much as I enjoy politics and some other topics, I don’t understand how some writers can choose one topic and write about it for years on end! lol Those folks seriously make me envious of their creative juices. I tend to write about one thing, get tired of it, and then want to move onto the next subject that interests me.

    2. Re: relationship bloggers.

    One of the biggest problems I have with relationship bloggers (and really, relationship writers in general) is that the field is crowded by people who are really just WRITERS who choose to talk about relationships. I think the best place to get relationship advice is either in therapy or in books/articles written by trained counselors/therapists. There are just too many people relaying their bad experiences, combing through the bad experiences of other people, those looking to make a buck (Steve Harvey), and other such folks to trust most of what is written on the net (and even in magazines by random people. This is your life. And just as you wouldn’t turn your plumbing over to someone who is not a trained plumbing, why would you turn your relationship life over to someone who has no real experience counseling and is just giving out information that may or may not be backed up by facts? To me, relationship bloggers are for entertainment and occasionally I do learn something, but I try not to get too carried away by them. I do enjoy sharing my experiences and learning from the experiences of others, and I think there is a lot of power in people choosing to share their experiences with each other (particularly because everyone can’t afford professional therapy.)

    Looking forward to your next video.

    • Well hello, I’m glad you enjoyed the vlog. I do those off the top of my head sometimes. I see things and just want to comment minus any interruption 🙂

      I’ve been seeing this comment on other blogs I frequent, this sort of insistence that blog owner shape content b/c a reader just wants other stuff. I don’t depend on one blog to cover every subject and b/c I wanted to hear some things I hadn’t heard before I created mine. Now as I said it can go all over the map and there are actually things I won’t talk about here although I hold an interest in them it’s just not my bag.

      I don’t do many relationships blogs myself. Although I certainly enjoy hearing about ppl’s happy relationships or even the way some ppl solve issues. I do with advice what my mom told me many years ago, I take what I can use and throw the rest out. I share about certain things myself but that’s the caveat I always give, if you can use it take it, if not keep it pushing. I’m not an expert on everyone’s relationship just my own and I like to share nuggets of wisdom. As for mental health stuff or serious relationship issues yes, get a therapist or find a good book by a good expert. I’ve done a series on emotional abuse, I shared some experiences but that was mixed in w/ information from four awesome books which I also shared with the readers. Not too long ago I did a vlog not too long ago on not using this blog as a substitute for real therapy and that stands. All folks have different issues from coming from various circumstances. I’m just trying to make ppl aware of some of those I’ve experienced or experienced with others. But what I hope is that if ppl have problems and are just looking for information to ‘start the ball rolling’ maybe I’ll be able to help them they can get the help they need. It’s a shame that 1 in 4 Americans has an undiagnosed mental health problem and that mental health is not a priority at all here, it’s not even on the radar. My thought is many ppl wouldn’t suffer some of the physical health problems they do if we took mental health serious.

      Enjoy the vlog, I’ll be back later to talk about something on my mind.

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