This post was published at Single Girl in A Weird World on 3/31/11
I’m writing this in response to a blog I saw on a blog called ‘Black Girls Are Easy’ it’s a terrible title for a blog but one of his blog post was very interesting. Now my warning is, it’s raunchy and he uses some colorful language but if you get through that you may find some good information on here for black women. It’s called Are You Wifey or Are You Pu$$y?, yea it’s provocative but I figure that’s because the young man wanted to get attention and he does. Now personally, I think this article could be written from a woman’s perspective about a man, many people are having issues mating/dating people. Also many people are doing dumb things when they mate and date. The essence of this blog post talks about women trying to use sex to get a man to marry them and the fact that most men are more than willing to take the sex women give and never give them anything significant in return. I know the truth of that hurts but this is a young man and this pretty much what most men think, no man is willing to turn a woman into a wife if all she has to offer is sex, no matter how good the sex is, you have to come with more. I think it’s a lesson well worth learning for black women. Black women as a set of women are have the highest rate of new HIV cases among all women in the U.S. 56%. We also have a out of wedlock birthrate of 73%, you can read more about that and the possible outcome of this issue on No Wedding, No Womb website. As black women we are also marrying at lower rates, only 46% and are the last choice when it comes to the dating pool. Now some of this you can certainly blame on people skewering the image of black women including other black women. But some of this is because black women are making bad choices, maybe we need to do some self-introspection and figure out why we’ve become so easy and willing to take up the role as ‘pu$$y’ for men and think that’s good enough to catch a man. I don’t think black women are dumb, I think we’re extremely smart, we’ve just decided to turn off our brains in this situation. I’m thinking that some black women have become so desperate from lack, they’re willing to okey-doke themselves into believing what’s between your legs is all that’s required to make a man fall in love. Or the worst of all delusions that love=sex, please take that out of your mindset if you’re thinking it. I’ll say it again because it bear repeating especially for black women, when we make better choices, we get better results.