I’m giving the 11 steps that you need to measure your success in making good, healthy, definable boundaries in your life.
Guilt can be difficult to deal with but if you do it will make things better. You don’t have to fear abandonment but you can’t make boundaries in a vacuum, you need support.
Not forgiving people makes sure you stay attached to them and never live your best life. Focusing on what other people need to change is just a way for you not to have to change, boundaries always start with you.
There are fears we have from childhood that may keep us from making healthy boundaries with people. And also our comfort in our discomfort may also keep in boundaryless relationships. Fear can keep us in bondage if we don’t face it. Please excuse the end, my camera just cut off and my microphone stopped working.
As human beings we can’t let what is missing in us keep us from making boundaries with others. We have to move past our resistance to get the benefit of boundaries.
Your boundaries are there for your good and the good of others. Their pain may make you feel bad for a moment but your boundaries are vital to your own happiness.
When you begin to set boundaries sometimes people take drastic actions to stop you from doing so. What do you do when this happens?
Guilt is a huge and frequent tactic used by people who don’t like or want you to have healthy boundaries. I’m talking about
what it looks it and how to defend yourself against guilt.
There can be a point where indifference turns into malicious hate and black men have crossed it with black women.
Yes people get really angry when you start to set up boundaries but that’s okay that’s their issue not yours. Don’t take it on.