Guilt can be difficult to deal with but if you do it will make things better. You don’t have to fear abandonment but you can’t make boundaries in a vacuum, you need support.
I’ve been noticing more and more that black women are involved in a lot of codependent relationships with people that are repeatedly showing them in word and deed that they hate them. It’s time to flee from those relationships.
It’s easy to be supportive during the good times in a marriage but the real test is what happens during the bad times.